Staying safe on the first meeting

For a first contact the following guidelines are what many experienced people involved in epe/bdsm suggest. Most are common sense - but that's exactly the first thing some people seem to lose when they're about to begin an erotic power exchange encounter.

  If you respond to a personal ad, try writing or phoning a couple of times first and use a post office box when corresponding. You don't want strange people ringing your doorbell unexpectedly.

  When you intend to meet somebody in person who you've met on the Net or through a personal ad, phone chat box or dateline, make sure you know something verifiable about him or her.

Written tasks for a #submissive

What is a Task or assignment?

Tasks or assignments should always have a purpose - to help improve a submissive in a particular way.

This list of six general purposes of a given assignments posted by |X|C|BDSM|, originally taken from a handout at Beyond Leather in Ft. Lauderdale, FL in April of 2013.

For their Growth / Education

• Reading List
• Cultural Exposure, such as going to a play or museum
• Doing something creative, like writing a story or drawing a picture
• Taking a class or learning a new skill